Compulsive Sexual Behavior

You can’t stop looking at porn, masturbating, or doing some other sexual behavior that goes against your values. It seems like you’ve tried everything, and nothing works—some strategies even seem to make it worse! It’s almost like the harder you try, the worse it gets, the more ashamed you feel (and the more you feel the need to cope with the shame through the same behavior that started it).

Maybe you’ve tried fixing it on your own and ended up feeling lonely and isolated.

Maybe you’ve tried attending 12-step groups and, while you appreciated knowing you weren’t alone, the strategies they gave you didn’t work in the long run.

You’ve tried all the apps, filters, podcasts, and articles you can find, and you’re still struggling with the same behaviors over and over.

You’re not broken.

(And you might not even be an addict.)

Just like you wouldn’t drive forward solely by looking in the rearview mirror, it’s hard to recover from compulsive sexual behavior when you solely focus on counting days since the last “relapse.”

Often people in your shoes feel there are only two options: identify as an addict and attend 12-step groups forever or completely give up on your moral beliefs. Let me help you discover a middle ground, a path where you have high standards for yourself but are not defined by your mistakes, where you can move toward the big goals you’ve put off until you finally “quit porn,” and where you feel more empowered to live your values truly, wholeheartedly, and with a whole lot of grace and compassion.

This isn’t my first rodeo.

I have seen hundreds of clients struggling with compulsive sexual behavior.

There’s not much you could say that would shock me. There’s also not a one-size-fits-all approach for coping with compulsive sexual behavior, so I have a full toolkit with options that might fit your specific situation. Whether your sexual concerns are connected to mental health concerns like anxiety or depression, a way to cope with stress, an attempt to make sense of your sexual orientation, an exploration of kink/fetish, a manifestation of relationship dissatisfaction, related to moral ambivalence, spurring a faith crisis, or some other experience, together we will figure out your unique story and help you decide what happens next.

Whether you prefer individual, couple, or group therapy for your compulsive sexual behavior, I can help.